fully feel what you are feeling. have compassion for the feeling, no matter how vile you think it is. then, you can choose a cozy sweater to wrap that feeling in. It isn’t an inauthentic band-aid, but the soothing realization of a layered reality. “I am SO heartbroken-ly jealous.” “But I am also am grateful for the love that surrounds me now” wrap your jealousy in kindness. swaddle your anger in responsibility. tuck your sadness into covers of light and play. a new gratitude, effervescence, and power you never expected might spring from that now-rich soil.